Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Life gets in the way …. and I let it, UGH!!!!

It’s hard. I know for everyone it’s hard but so many are able to do it while I seem to just flounder around. This is my third summer (which seems to have arrived now) to be working on losing my weight. It hasn’t gotten one little bit easier and in fact I think it’s harder now than before though I know how hard I worked to lost my first 40 lbs. Not a huge amount compared to so many others but a good chunk for me.

So I have decided that the first 40 don’t count anymore. Well they do but not from where I’m sitting today. I’m going to start all over. From the beginning. Now when I first did my weight loss there was Allan and Steve to help me get started. Now both of them are off doing what they must so this time it will be me, myself and I.

I am going to quit blogging about it, I’m going to go back to the basics and just relearn and redo and in another years time I will have lost another 40 (well I can really hope and try).

I am sorry to Nicole for dropping out of her challenge but I just don’t have it in me to try and keep up with my blogging, my family, my life and soon daycare and everything else. I am just going to put me first and learn to take care of me. Marc, you started this. Marc wrote a post this past week about taking care of yourself and it has been sitting in my heart and brain and just festering to beat the band. His comment to me was sweet and to the point and … well I think I’ve learned a bit.

Now I’m not going to quit blogging, I am not quitting on Deb and I (we are partners in this until we have gotten to where we want to be), I’m just not going to blog anymore about weight loss. You do get to hear about the 5k’s I’m planning, you do get to hear about what I’ve learned, I’m just not going to be posting weights, diet plans, ideas (unless they work).

I can’t keep up with the Jones, so I’m just going to keep up with me. I know very well I can do this. I did it for about 4 months without anyone and made a good start. Then came Steve and Allan who both helped me so much. Now it’s just time to put this knowledge to good use and learn more along the way.

I will be stopping by everyone that I always do, I will be following along, cheering you on, sharing my knowledge, learning from you but for now, I have nothing to teach, nothing to show and nothing to share about a lady who just can’t get herself together.

Me first, it has to be otherwise I’m not going to be good for anyone else and with my dad’s health declining day by day, my mama just hanging on, my sister who by the grace of God keeps living even when her body refuses so much. For my son that has grown up and has started the most awesome life, for my husband that sticks by me and has learned a bit about me and needing space. Well this year is for me.

So today is day 1.

Mike, family, crafts, kids, bussing, 5k’s, my miles and goals, recipes, and so much more to come…..just not diet. Sorry if I’ve offended, sent away, not helped, not inspired, not lived up to whomever expectations of me. It’s just time for me.

Take care my friends. I truly do hope you stick around and visit me.



Angela Pea said...


I read something this morning about some basic rules 'self-care', you've summed them up here perfectly!

don't be a people pleaser
trust your instincts
don't be afraid to say "no"
don't be afraid to say "yes"
let go of what you can't control
hang on to what makes you happy

Your plan sounds most excellent, Julie. I'm looking forward to hearing "real life" things from you this summer!


Melanie O'Brien said...

You go girl! We all need to take some 'me' time now & again & work what we know works best for us so kudos to you and just know we are all here to cheer ya on when you need some cheering:-) You always have so much going on, I'm never quite sure how you fit it all in. You have a good partner that will be there for you I'm sure but always remember we're here too should you need us:-)

Marc said...

Hi Julie :) I want to thank you for giving me the determination to crank up those miles. If I hadn't found your blog, I'd still be piddling along trying to get 600 in by December. Today I passed 350 miles and if it hadn't been for finding your blog...I doubt I would have raised the bar. So thanks again.

There are so many good quotes about being true to yourself, but I'll just use one - "Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't.--Eleanor Roosevelt" Blessings (I learned that from you too:)

Losing The Rolls said...

Congratulations on the first 40 lbs! That is super, can't wait to see what you do next. Cheers!

Baby Sister said...

Good for you, Julie. You need to do what is right for YOU and not worry about anyone else and keeping up with the Jones'.

Betty W said...

I'm so with YOU on this. We reached the same decision at the same time. It's time to focus on ME/YOU. You can do it Julie! I'll be praying for you!

Jo said...

Not inspired??? Are you kidding...Julie, you are the most inspiring and encouraging friend I have here. Do not underestimate yourself. Please keep doing what you have been for us. I could never have stayed here if not for you. Blessings...

Caron said...

I've taken off from blogging for a while too. Maybe forever. We'll see. This is the first day I've stopped to read some blogs and comment. We all know what to do to lose weight, but you are right that we let life get in the way. Take care of yourself Julie. I'll probably check in to read every couple of weeks. :)

Colie's Kitchen said...

Julie, I am proud of you! You are doing what is right for you and that's what counts. You know what to do! There is no secret until you realize you already know the secret and the answers! Good luck and keep moving forward You know where I am if you need a cheerleader!!